According to NCADV, 4 in 10 people have experienced some kind of coercive control from an intimate partner. Sadly, #MaybeSheDoesntHitYou is raising much-needed awareness for a widespread problem.
This is disgusting. It really is. I hope that people gain awareness of this issue and their own situation and I really hope that we all find better.
I appreciate the hell out of the women reblogging this. As a survivor of such emotional abuse, I know it’s vital for men to step forward and talk about their experiences. The old “man up” narrative needs to die.
It disgusts me that there are people in this world who will look at this and say it’s not abuse because the victim was a man, or they’ll try and say it doesn’t deserve to be recognized because physical abuse is “worse.”
In my personal experience, emotional abuse tended to be worse because at least I knew when physical abuse was happening and not have to guess at when someone was actually being decent to me.
Abuse towards men in relationships is far too normalized, especially in straight relationships.
Ladies, don’t hit your man. Don’t cut him off front his friends because of your own jealousy issues. Don’t go through his phone. Don’t tell him he can’t leave you. That’s abuse.
#END THE NORMALIZATION OF NOT SPEAKING UP ABOUT NON-PHYSICAL ABUSE
this blog supports ALL people enduring abuse or people that have survived abuse, no matter your gender, race, sexuality, the type of abuse, or if you think you’re worthy of support. you are worthy.
People are protesting that we must boycott the film Bohemian Rhapsody because, and I quote, “the trailer erases Mercury’s homosexuality by having him flirt with a woman and whitewashes him!” Which is funny, because these people are basically erasing Freddie Mercury’s bisexuality and his relationship with Mary Austin and whitewashing Rami Malek at the same time in order to back their shitty excuse of an argument.
Now, repeat with me:
Freddie Mercury wasn’t gay, he was bisexual. Rami Malek is Egyptian.
Freddie Mercury wasn’t gay, he was
bisexual. Rami Malek is Egyptian.
Freddie Mercury wasn’t gay, he was
bisexual. Rami Malek is Egyptian.
Freddie Mercury wasn’t gay, he was
bisexual. Rami Malek is Egyptian.
This has been a PSA.
When the first snippet trailer was released there were rumors that they were making Freddie straight and ending the movie before the AIDS crisis.
These rumors turned out to only be based on the fact that neither of those themes were in the 30 second clip.
Since then the trailers clearly show him flirting with men and women and the writers have spoken out to say that part of Freddie’s motivation in the movie is he was recently diagnosed with AIDS. So yeah it’s brought up JUST A LITTLE
But biphobes will hate no matter how much googling you do for them so I guess I’ll just have to HAPPILY go watch this movie 70 consecutive times.
The point of a trailer is to stirr your interests, not fucking tell you the whole plot of a film just to score woke points lol
- urgently marched into A&E and said ‘we’re having knee pain!!’ to the confused receptionist. i had to explain that it was only my knee and that he was just worried
- when asked to tag me in a meme of ‘what water are you?’, said ‘you are the ocean: home to all friends’
- loved ‘filthy gorgeous’ and, rather than learning the words, learned ‘all three parts in the song where they ring a triangle’
- after we had an argument about him not ‘getting’ my ADHD, i caught him halfway through a three hour playlist of lectures on ADHD, with a pen in hand, taking notes
- he suffered a TBI last summer and he did not like the orienting questions they ask (’what year is it? what day is it?’ etc). when asked ‘do you know where you are?’, he cracked one eye open and angrily said ‘in bed!’
- he played knack 2 and hated it. when i asked why he was still playing it, he said ‘so i never have to play it again’. he got every achievement and as soon as he got the last one he stood up, ejected the disc and returned it to the store
- lately he’s given up on making lunch so he just drinks huel which is a meal replacement shake, except huel is kind of boring so he sometimes puts nesquick strawberry powder in there
- my favourite drink is pepsi max. when asked about his dreams for the future, they often involve ‘being rich enough to find a way to pump pepsi max directly into our house’
- one time in our first year of dating i hadn’t seen him in weeks, whereas we normally saw each other all day every day, so i was gonna go stay with him for a couple days. he had a temporary job (i’m talking 2 weeks total) at the time and i was bummed that i was gonna be alone at his for a bit, but w/e. he was texting me like ‘work is going okay, in the line for the canteen right now’ while i got on the bus. i found the key where he said it was, i found a note on the table like ‘hi love! the wifi code is [password], I’ll be back at 5!’, and then I went into the lounge and he was there. he was lying on a fold-out bed with Marvin Gaye playing. the TV was on a powerpoint slide that said ‘Welcome, Jess. I quit my job.’ he was entirely naked except for a cushion with the letter ‘D’ over his crotch. im 95% sure there were candles
- we play the game Rimworld, where you micromanage a colony of people on an alien planet. he uses it entirely to simulate a peaceful colony, mostly of women, who have a large number of animals they care for and train. one time he got this random event where all the women in the colony got a psychic mood boost and he was like ‘honestly that’s my life goal’
- when he was in hospital and his cognitive functions were slowly coming back, he looked up from twitter with horror and said ‘jess… is the american president a racist?’
- we were playing Articulate, which is a game where you have to describe a word without saying the word itself. His partner said ‘when you’re beginning sex, you are…’. he, without a second of hesitation, yelled ‘FOREPLAY’. the answer was actually ‘initiating’, but my ego grew like fourteen times
- one time he asked me what guacamole was, and i told him, and he said ‘if it’s made up of things that already have names why does it have a different name?’ i have not let him live this down yet
- i used to have an eating disorder, and whilst i’m good 99.9% of the time now i occasionally do have wobbles. one time i’d eaten some mini-donuts and i told him ‘i kind of want to check the calories on those…’, so he immediately pulled the label off and ate it
- i lost him for like twenty minutes at a uni event, and when i found him he presented me with a pepsi max badge and said ‘i rode this mechanical bull to try and win you a year’s supply but i fell off pretty quickly. sorry.’
- we won the ‘best couple’ award in our year at uni, but neither of us were there to collect it because i was ill and he left halfway through to come home and take care of me
- one time he wasn’t paying attention while making lunch and he cracked an egg directly into the bin. the look of confusion on his face was priceless.
- on the rare occasions when i wake up before him, when i kiss him/ touch him he makes these little like… activation sounds? you know like when you touch a cat? it’s like those
This is the cutest thing I have read with my own eyes
Have you ever really thought about how when you look at the moon, it’s the same moon Shakespeare and Marie Antoinette and Van Gogh and Cleopatra looked at.
they all looked at the moon they’re all dead the moon is killing people wake up america
Can you believe we live in a society where people are kissing Elsa’s ass and viewing her as a great big sister despite neglecting Anna through their whole ass childhood just cause she has the ability to make fucking freezer ice cubes while Nani, a dedicated brown woman who despite lost her parents by a lethal storm had to push her grief aside because Lilo was now her main priority, took care of her, fed her, probably paid money for her hula classes, busted her ass at her job to financially support Lilo, busted her ass to emotionally support Lilo, supported Lilo’s photography talent even though Lilo’s theme was a little weird, got her a dog and even during moments where Nani hit was hitting rock bottom (ex: getting fired but didn’t put her frustration out on Lilo) she did whatever it took to keep her little sister from being taken away, and wanted nothing but happiness and safety for her.
I think about Nani sometimes and I realize she’s the kind of woman I want to be - strong, determined, hardworking and loyal to her family and friends no matter how scary things get in life.
I wasn’t asked to a single dance in high school and didn’t have a serious romantic relationship until I was 22. And like, yeah that shit hurt when I was younger. I had a lot of fears that I was unlovable and that I didn’t deserve to be happy. And every time I would try to talk to anyone about it, the conversation became, “you’ll find someone”, when it should have been, “you don’t need a relationship or a date, you’re lovable & complete & beautiful on your own”.
So yeah, please normalize young people not dating, and please stop shaming them for it. There’s more to life than romance, despite what the media wants us to think.
THIS
Some of y'all need to read this shit and understand it fully
This is a big part of why everyone was so happy to see Black Panther do as well as it did.
But it really shouldn’t be like this.
Some movies bomb. Some movies do well. It’s the nature of the business.
But it never means “Yeah, well, one movie starring mostly Asian actors flopped, so let’s not do another movie starring mostly Asian actors.”
Never saw anyone refusing to do movies with white people after John Carter epically bombed.
:/ weird how there are like 8 different movies with whitewashed leads that bombed astronomically and yet ppl keep doing it and no one is out here like “idk guys I guess whitewashed movies just don’t work”
when they jonas brothers were like “i came from the year 3000..not much has changed but they live underwater..” that was a politically charged remark about climate change and we all ignored it
god how fukin tight was it rearranging your room when you were younger and it feeling like a different space and you’d show your parents and they’d be like wow very nice and you’d be like FUCK yes new room new me i’m gonna put these pillows and fluffy animals back on my bed every fukin morning from now on and like that night you can barely sleep cause you’re so excited to be sleeping in ur new room layout and then the novelty wears off and you go back to your messy self idk or was that just me
this has the same energy as the ‘my names michael with a b and i’ve been scared of insects my entire life’ ‘what wait where’s the b’ ‘tHeReS a bEe?!?!?!’ vine
